So guys -- hope you have all been well and I gather from the many e-mails I've been getting that the new sneakers have arrived!! -- Congratulations! -- glad I could oblige! -- I'm trying my best to keep up with the blog, I know the entries are few and far between and not what you are all used to, but I can promise you, when I write --it will be jampacked with info --
For me, life has somewhat calmed down in the weeks since the challenge and I'm trying to find a balance in my eating -- I haven't lost more weight, but I've been successful in maintaining -- exercise is really the key -- if I overeat at a special event or dinner -- I am back on the treadmill the next day -- I am actually finding that the exercise is the part of my new lifestyle that is somewhat easier to maintain -- it is easy for me to head to the gym during the day and when I wake up in the morning I always plan in my head what I will be doing later that day -- but sometimes the food part is hard -- going out to dinner, especially on the weekends, I tend to let myself go a little bit -- but during the week, my eating does not really change that much from what I had been doing during the challenge so I'm finding there is a balance --
I'm afraid though, the challenge has taken a backseat to the new big thing going on in my life -- the decluttering process -- it is a long and hard process and I'm exhausted - it is not only hard to part with things, but hard work doing it -- I don't really know why I have trouble -- there is definitely something in my personality which is making me somewhat of a hoarder -- not as bad as that woman on Oprah, but I have my own issues -- I always hesitate to share them here -- but if I am continuing my change -- why shouldn't you all learn and change along with me!
Kathleen, my organizational consultant, has been a godsend -- and while it might be easy for anyone to part with as many t-shirts, sweatshirts and books as I have in the past week - for some reason, it is not easy for me! -- again hard to understand I know -- but Kathleen is there to help - to question - to cajole and to help throw out once and for all -- as I mentioned last week, we started with the book shelves in my office/guest room - I didn't take a very good before shot -- but here is the before and.... the after!
not bad I think -- and a great start - the books were easy -- I looked online where they could be donated and it turns out that Housing Works has a used bookstore downtown, so we packed up all 246 books in 7 boxes
and I got them out of the house the next day -- click here if you are interested in donating to Housing Works.
We worked for 9 hours last week -- after the books, we tackled the sweatshirts - I fancied myself quite the collector -- i have (or should I say had) all the Ivy League schools -- tons from Northwestern (my alma mater) and even more from Nantucket (my favorite vacation spot) --
At one point we had all the sweatshirts laid out on the bed, and Kathleen held them up -- one at a time -- I fought her on some - it was a real give and take and at one point she actually was a little insulting -- but it is all "tough love" -
she continues to point out and she is right - that I'm 30 pounds thinner than I was and that none of these sweatshirts are the least bit flattering -- I tried a few on and I forgot what she said, but it wasn't very nice and so she has now been given the nickname of being a "mean sark" -- (the saying is derived from a saying that a former "live" producer Dana Dodge and I used to say which is taken from when Dana was a kid and couldn't say the word "shark" and so it came out "sark" -- so whenever anyone wasn't the nicest -- they were automatically a "mean sark!") -- hence Kathleen was transformed into one during the sweatshirt escapade --
To her credit, Kathleen has her own language which hits the points home -- calling me a "schlumpadinka" if the sweatshirt was the least little bit too big -- it is my cue to show off the new body that I've got and the time to wear sweatshirts is done --- once finished, my living room was filled with shopping bags filled with them -- all of which will hopefully find new homes where people really need them -- even Molly looks happy the sweatshirts are gone..
It was a good week and a good start to the de-cluttering process -- the more I do this, the more I realize that part of the reason I hold onto these things because I think I can't remember things without them, but in reality -- I can remember what I want and it is time for new memories to be made in this apartment -- I do have to point out that although I am as Kathleen says a true "clutter monkey," it is true that I have never moved -- I've lived in my apartment for all of my adult life -- Now it is time to make room for someone else (David) -- it is really like having to move for the very first time -- Kathleen is definitely pretty tricky -- she gently encourages me to throw away much more than I would have liked, but the empty shelves and room for the stuff I do have is the trade off -- it is all pretty good.
My cleaning was interrupted on Friday by a trip to Ann Arbor to see my little brother Jason graduate -- so the Schulweis' descended en masse upon Michigan and enjoyed a happy event -- for the first time in the history of the University of Michigan, the graduation ceremony was held in the middle of campus on the "Diag," rather than the "Big House" -- the football stadium which is undergoing renovations -- -- Bob Woodruff was the speaker and it was kind of cold grey morning -- but we were all happy to be there --
my favorite photo of the whole weekend was when we were able to find my brother in the crowd of more than 4000 University of Michigan graduates!!
It was very exciting to be able to find him and considering there is no playing of pomp and circumstance and no walking across the stage to receive a diploma -- it was a thrilling moment for all of us and I'm pretty sure my dad may have gotten a little teary --
After the graduation, we headed back to Jason's house which he shared with 6 other fraternity brothers and we took the necessary photos -- -- here are some of the highlights --
those are 4 of the 5 Schulweis kids -- all beaming with pride -- it was a pretty great weekend -- nice to spend quality time with my family and I'm pretty proud of my brother -- as they say -- a good time was had by all -- that night when we went out to dinner -- David called me just as we were ordering wine and so he helped out a bit with the ordering -- well when they brought the wine -- who do you think the waitress poured to taste -- you guessed it ....me!! -- Kind of funny -- but I put my newly learned wine expertise to work
--- the next morning -- there was only my sister, brother and Dad left, so we all went to breakfast ---
and then as fast as it started -- the weekend was over -- and Jason was about to enter the real world with the rest of us!! -- One last Congratulations Jason!!!
On the plane ride home --as we were flying over Manhattan, we flew right over the Verazzano Bridge -- I started to seriously think about running in the NYC Marathon -- and that is where it starts -- I'm seriously thinking of trying to run it -- but who knows -- then I get on the treadmill and think - how in the world would I ever be ever able to run for 5 hours -- there is still a little time -- but like I've said before
it is much more fun to run when there is something to train for -- so we'll see -- I'll keep you posted.
I was greeted when I got home by David who had been dogsitting Molly all weekend andt they both survived the experience brilliantly!! although Molly gave me quite a greeting when I got home -- she was definitely glad to have me back -- they both were -- and it was good to be home --
This week has found me feeling like I've been burning the candle at both ends -- getting up early to go to work -- then running home and continuing to clean for 3 or 4 hours when I get home -- I'm definitely staying up way past my bedtime -- and after going to bed last night about midnight I'm definitely feeling it today --
After tackling the t-shirts on Monday night, Kathleen was back last night to box them up and have them ready to ship out to donate to a shelter in the Bronx -- click here for more information on Abraham House -- and I continue to clean my guest room to anticipate the return of my friend's Tom and Colette who will be visiting this weekend --
I have to admit to you all, that unlike most NYC apartments, I have a fair amount of closet space, but taking up room in most of it are a gazillion t-shirts -- here is a before and after of one of them -- I definitely did not take enough before shots -- when Kathleen comes over -- we zoom right into work and start cleaning right away and before you know it -- the closet is cleaned out!!
again -- not bad -- I think ---
All told -- and here comes the embarassing part -- I packed up 13 boxes of t-shirts, sweatshirts and shorts -- the final tally ------- gulp --- and I hesitate because why do we keep these things (the answer is because we can) --- I gave away 355 t-shirts (included were t-shirts from every U.S. Open since 1983!!, countless Nantucket t-shirts and others from various sporting events and god knows what) --- 63 sweatshirts and about 20 pairs of shorts --- I couldn't even start to wear everything even if I started today!! ---
Kathleen and I piled them onto a cart -- here she is as we headed
-- trapped under the boxes!!
down to the lobby -- who knew one person could have so much stuff!!
it is a little sick I know -- but after losing 30 pounds -- i'm not done -- I'm losing hundreds of pounds -- literally and figuratively --
It all feels good -- exhausting, a little sad, a little weird, but essentially all good -- it is how I know the weight will stay off for good this time -- because this stuff was weighing me down as well -- change is being able to let it all go -- and you just have to be ready for it and I guess I finally am.....
Just a couple of quick notes -- first, Betsy -- yes -- Bob Woodruff was an amazing speaker -- but you didn't see me in the Campus Inn because I wasn't really staying there -- my Dad was -- I was staying at a different hotel -- but that is a weird coincidence --
Second -- thank you all for your encouraging comments about the de-cluttering -- they mean as much to me as always -- I guess the weight problem and clutter problem go a little hand in hand -- and just like I'm continuing to try not to put things in my mouth -- I'm trying not to buy anything or bring anything new into my apartment -- it is all the same - all things that weigh you down and keep you from being (to borrow from Oprah) the best you that you can be -- thanks for continuing to take this journey with me (now I just sound like I'm on a reality show -- they always use the word "journey" ) -- I mean it....
Another long blog -- sorry -- but I think you may only get an entry about once a week - but it will be a good one!! I'll fill you in on my weekend next week -- but there will be more de-cluttering news I'm sure!!
And one more congratulations on the new sneakers for those who got them -- thanks for supporting me -- now get out there and exercise !
Thanks for reading -- have a good one -- Schully
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